Poet and preacher John Donne wrote, “No man is an island, entire of itself…” This is especially true of
Christ followers and is the necessary practice of those who have been baptized together by the Spirit into one body. In fact, we are an integral part of one another as believers. We need each other for the sake of encouragement, mutual ministry, fulfillment of our shared mission, and personal character development.
I have learned that accountability is not a “system” but an approach to life and relationships that values transparency, consistency, and mutual submission. Because I know my own weakness and pride, but want to live an authentic life, I must pursue accountability regularly – and for a lifetime.
By way of application, consider these questions that might help us all move toward a more genuine accountability for the sake of our authenticity:
1. Am I willing to submit my personality, approach, accomplishments, and plans to other godly believers without reacting in pride and defensiveness? If not, why not?
2. Am I willing to get into a regular covenant relationship with other believers who will care for me, be honest with me, and help me in my spiritual journey? If not, why not? If so, when will I start and what will it look like?
3. Who do I know that could become a source of honest feedback without fear of reprisal or reaction on my part? Can I contact them this week? Can I get into a routine of honest, transparent communication about my life, my struggles, my attitudes, my relationships, and my plans for the future?
4. If I do not do this, what consequences might occur? If I do take this step, what blessings might I expect?
Proverbs 18:1-2 says, “A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire; he rages against all wise judgment. A fool has no delight in understanding, but in expressing his own heart.” We have all felt the temptation to withdraw from those who tell us things we need to hear but do not like to hear. Yet, staying the course and pursuing truth-telling relationships is the key to understanding – and ultimately, an authentic life. (DANIEL HENDERSON)